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You’re Creative! TALENTED! FULL of ideas! In fact, you’re a bottom­less pit of innovation, curiosity and fun! Then why are you such a boring date? Dinner? A movie? A walk in the park? Yawn. What next? A carriage ride? Noooooo … Here’s a little secret: if you really want to impress a woman, show her something new. Give her an experience she’s never had before. Trust me: if you do it properly, she’ll return the favour later that night.

The trick is to set up a situation that can spark intimacy-building conversation. “A great date is about ‘me too’ moments,” says Nicholas Boothman, author of How To Make Someone Love You Forever In 90 Minutes Or Less. “It’s also about self-disclosure, where you grow closer by exchanging ideas, feelings, hopes and vulnerabilities.” Here, then, are five dates every man has in his arsenal- and the ways you can elevate them to a new level. Read the rest of this entry »

Men are naturally gifted when it comes to directions, maps, advice etc… and not needing them in the least - it must be that men are born with an internal super garmin-esque ability.

Women seem to winge incessantly whenever we veer slightly off the beaten track and never really appreciate the chance to soak in all the sights and sounds that being hopelessly lost affords. However, when it comes to those watchama “hotspots” found all over her, yeah those erogenous zones thingies, we honestly wouldn’t mind a little direction. Read the rest of this entry »

As far as relationship advice for men goes, us poor fellas are left in the dark somewhat. Books are few and far between and Hollywood’s portrayal of the ideal boyfriend/husband only accentuates what an unreliable horde of sex-craved Neanderthals we are - an endearment we’ve work hard to achieve.

Trawl the sex and relationship aisles of any book shop and you’re sure to find a slew of titles for women harping on about what schmucks men are and that they’re from an entirely different ‘planet’ (Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus) or how men are only looking for emotionally unavailable, fire-breathing ice queens, who should find girly delight and merriment in placing their man’s (physical and) emotional nuts in a bench vice and squeezing the beejezus out them day in and day out, in sickness and in health till death do they part (Why Men Marry Bitches).

David Deida’s: The Way of the Superior Man is a refreshingly new read that gives the sex-craved Neanderthals some real advice and guidance for a change, exploring some interesting concepts such as sexual energies, a man’s meaning and purpose, rape and dominance (and the common women’s fantasy of being overpowered), emotion etc.

I “read” this as an audio book (some food for thought whilst working out in the mornings) and as a whole found it quite interesting and enlightening. I would certainly recommend it to those looking for more of an explanation into the reasons why attraction and relationships don’t always run as smoothly as one would hope. Read the rest of this entry »

Having recently lefts the ranks of singledom (i.e. seduction and pickup) and finding myself in a serious relationship has meant that I’m having to learn quite a few new things about myself, and how I operate. No longer is there a “me” but now quite importantly an “us” which means I’m not only rationalising and exploring my own thoughts but also having to figure out those of my now better half.

One of the most important things I have found from being in a serious relationship (after quite some time mind you) is that you can never sit back and expect the course of true love to run smoothly. By this I mean there is effort needed to keep things fun, happy, interesting, unpredictable but also (and most importantly) to look at how you (both) handle things through the challenges and through tough times – this will define you and make you a more lovable and better person to your other and those around you. Read the rest of this entry »