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Facebook: How To Meet Women Online

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What if I told you there was a tool available online that would treble your success (and exposure) with women, and it would only take a few minutes to setup and maintain. You’d be quite interested wouldn’t you? Then what if I told you that it was going to be entirely free and you wouldn’t pay a single subscription fee ever. This handy online tool does exist and it’s called “Facebook” and is set to revolutionise the way online dating is conducted now and for good. Facebook is a social media site aimed at young adults, and has all the makings of the perfect online dating platform – minus the fees of course. Everybody who signs up to Facebook, creates a profile where they list things like their relationship status, interests, what music they like, current work situation, hobbies, general description etc. Plus adding friends, and sending messages to them is done at the touch of a button. You can also “poke” people which I will get into a little further in the article, which is a very subtle and powerful way to meet people.

Although it will take a little time to setup, this is going to be well worth your while and will see you meeting more women than you can shake a fully erect stick at. Please note though that facebook should not substitute going out into the real world to meet and interact with women – this still needs to be the bread and butter of your pickup efforts and is the fastest and best way to learn. And you are still going to have to meet up with these women (from facebook) in any event to get to know them better and see if they’re worthy of your time and if you’d like to discover her further.

If you were wondering what sort of women you are going to meet on facebook, you are going to be pleasantly surprised my friend as there are all sorts; from the raucous party girls to the intellectually introverted (and sometimes annoyingly opinionated) art students, sexy single moms, ambitious corporate ball-busting go-getters, sweet girls from next door, witty and sassy honeys – they are all on there and are just waiting to meet you.

Creating A Profile on Facebook

This is going to be the first step you will take. Simply head over to facebook.com and signup. Now, when filling out your profile try to fill in as much information as possible, ideally filling in all fields. Add a few items (which you will build on later) but make sure to have all fields filled out.

Relationship status – Check the friendship, relationship, dating and random play fields. Leave out the “whatever I can get” as this appears desperate and needy.

Personal Info – go ahead and fill all these in, but resist the temptation to put in things like sex, women etc or any other cheesy lines. Under the interests section try and put a few intriguing entries in there to pique a bit of interest; for example things like psychology, poetry, tai chi are all fascinating topics and would lead people to believe that you’re actually quite a (and to quote the girl I’m currently seeing– who I incidentally met on facebook) multi-faceted, and interesting. However, you really do need to be into these things and you shouldn’t deceive people in any shape, way or form. The idea of this personal info is to allow women a glimpse into your world, and based on that they can see just how similar or appealing to them you actually are.

Photos – Make sure to have a few photos on there, ones that show you having fun, smiling or you with your friends and family. This is good for what’s called social proof as one can see you are a well rounded person with real friends and a loving family.

Right once you have your profile setup, try and get the opinion of a female companion as she will be able to spot anything that could raise alarms bells in your prospects mind. For example she’d tell you to leave the facebook group, “Hot Sluts R Us”, as it may give the wrong impression.

Finding Women on Facebook

Now here is the fun part, the browsing. Head over to the “Networks” section (along the top row) and click the “Browse All Networks” link, this will take you to a page filled with all the networks. Fill in your state, country or city (if it’s big enough), under the “search for network” field. Then head over to the “Browse” link under the “People in [Network]”. Now here’s where the fun starts, and it allows you to fill in quite few specifics to finding women.

Sort Method – Alphabetical. You are going to need to keep track (i.e. of name and page number) so you’re not poking / messaging the same girl more than once.

All other fields – Be specific as you like to really narrow the search down, or a general as you like to open up your options.

As you will see there are going to be hoards of prospects for you to start interacting with, so it’s advisable to keep a log. So say if you’d like to poke / message 5 girls everyday you are going to need to record the page number you are on and the name of the last girl. Another trick to use is copying the URL in your browsers address bar and saving that in your log – this will then take you right back to the search result you were last at. This is where the alphabetical sorting method is crucial.

The Facebook Pickup Approach

The nice thing about “approaching” women on facebook is that you are not going to have any of the paralysing approach anxiety (found in the real world) and will be able to approach seemingly hundreds of girls in a short space of time.

Some profiles on facebook have a restricted privacy setting meaning that they’ve set it so only their friends can see their profile, this is fine as you can still send a message and poke them – and don’t worry, your pokes are NOT recorded in your mini-feed so people won’t see that you’re poking (or sending messages) to 5 women every day – and think you’re creepy. However, it’s nice to have a look at someone’s profile and get an idea of what they’re all about, this will mean you can tailor that first message to any of their interest or activities and show a real interest.

Ok, so now you’re ready to start approaching some women on facebook. The best way to go about it, is simply to “poke her”, you will find the poke her button alongside her profile not only does this allow you to gauge interest when you find she pokes you back, but also saves time by not having to come up with witty message to initially to send her. After poking her, the next time she logs into facebook she will see a “You have been poked by [Your Name]” and the option to remove the poke or poke back. She will then click on your name and be taken to your (tactfully created) profile and can then snoop around and find out all about you, and if she becomes interested can then decide to poke you back.

Once you get your first poke back (and after celebrating with a bottle of Veuve Clicquot) don’t start a poking marathon, this is your cue to send her a message as she is interested in you.

What Do I Say?

Well done for getting this far, and here’s where your game and pickup skills step in. Keep that first message short and sweet. This is where it’s handy if she has a public profile as you will be able to ask her about any of her activities or interests i.e. “Hey, I see you’re into salsa, do you know of any clubs / classes around [hers and your city]?”

Alternatively, a simple “Ouch! You’re going to leave a bruise with all that poking.” Or “Is that really you in your profile picture?”, which is a good one as she will always respond with a “Of course it is why do you ask?” and will be curious as to why you asked – i.e. what does he think of me?

The trick then is to get things off facebook and into the real world as soon as possible, by this I mean getting her number or making a date to meet up somewhere. Or letting her know that you’ll be out at bar / club this Friday and she should stop by to “buy YOU a drink”.

Well there you go, I hope you picked up a few hints from this article. There really are some intelligent and gorgeous woman online, and more so than in clubs and bars. So get your hands dirty and get poking. Facebook is really going to expand your game, and open up many options for you, so take the time to use this powerful tool to enhance your pickup skills and remember, make sure to get these women into the real world and flirting with you as soon as possible. That’s key.

Happy poking!

[Date Demon is currently running a fantastic facebook dating project where he is going to turn a generic Mr. nobody into a facebook super-player in a short amount of time and with hardly any effort. Check out the progress at Date Demon]

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4 Comments

  1. Wow, this is a great idea. I agree, Facebook is a great place for meeting women. I activley used Facebook when courting my wife too and although I didn’t hook up from Facebook it did help in the overall dating relationship. Also Myles Reed’s book “Fishing for Love on the Net” might be of interest to you since your into this online dating stuff. The book has some great insights and his website has some great resources. Try googling him or follow the trackback link on my name.

  2. Wow, this is a great idea. I agree, Facebook is a great place for meeting women. I activley used Facebook when courting my wife too and although I didn’t hook up from Facebook it did help in the overall dating relationship. Also Myles Reed’s book “Fishing for Love on the Net” might be of interest to you since your into this online dating stuff. The book has some great insights and his website has some great resources. Try googling him or follow the trackback link on my name.

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  4. I will have a look at this title and see if there are any bits and pieces that may be of use to my readers. Many thanks for the heads up Ethan. 😉

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