Fellas, if you’re out on the prowl for a new Missus you really need to know how not to be a dull and boring prat in conversation. Anytime you’re approaching women it’s important to remember that conversation is the best tool in your box – and keeping your ‘tool in its box’ is also recommended until things heat up in the bedroom.
It’s doesn’t matter how hot your package looks in those Diesel jeans, if you can’t keep an interesting and intelligent conversation going you can expect the word “NEXT” to be yodeled from her gob quicker than you can say “so uhm…. do you come here often”. When you lose sight of this, flirting with women becomes slightly akward, not only for you but for the woman as well. Approaching women isn’t hard, it just takes some practice in conversational aptitude, and a pair of testicles (which you hopefully still have, if not, check out BSN Axis-HT Pro-Testosterone 120 Tablets from the online store)
If you really want to know how not to be a mindless rambler during conversation, just remember to be yourself, except if being yourself means being a complete self absorbed schmuck – women generally tend not to like these sorts of guys although they think they do.
There is nothing more attractive to a woman than a man who knows himself and is confident in that knowledge – and also a man that’s improving himself by learning a new language or taking up a dance class, or going to cooking school etc. These little things create an “x factor” in guys that women find intriguing.
When chatting to women don’t come on too strong or act like a chump by bragging about yourself, your job or heaven forbid, the last woman you dated. To flirt with women, you need to lose the attitude as well – laid back, easy going and smooth is the idea here. Nothing is as unattractive as a self inflated ego. Sure, confidence and being sure of yourself is hugely attractive, but constantly being the dim sounding, raucous, beer chugging lout with nothing interesting to say will get you nowhere, fast! Save that for years on down the road when you are happily married.
One great thing to remember in how not to be boring in conversation is to keep it light. Stick to small talk and interesting subjects. Stay away from politics, religion or controversial topics. These are lightning rods for boring and downright bad conversations. When you talk to women try not to be too serious in regards to what you are looking for in a relationship or dating partner. That can seem needy and push women away.
What Do I Say?
The following are a few interesting topics you might like to bring up:
- HER! (i.e. what does she do to let her hair down, where is she going on her next holiday)
- Celebrity gossip (women loving gossiping about tinsel town skanks, and their latest movies)
- Who is the most interesting person you ever met? Who’s your role model? (politely excuse yourself saying you have to go floss your cat if she answers with any of the following: Paris Hilton, Britney Spears, Heather Mills McCartney, Kate Moss)
- What thing that you haven’t yet done would you most like to do?
- What is the best quality you’ve inherited from either of your parents? (and no her breasts from mum wouldn’t count)
One of the most important things in how not to be boring in conversation is knowing when not to talk – i.e. to listen (and not just hear) to what she is saying. Listening is as important and sometimes more so than what you have to say to them. Ask her open ended questions (i.e. how, what, where, when) and then listen intently to the answers. Find hints about her and her interests from the answers she gives – this is key to keeping things flowing. Being a good listener is crucial when trying to talk to women.
Well? What are you waiting for, the article is finished. Go forth and get schmoozing!