You may notice that it is difficult to keep going or even to stay awake after you’ve ejaculated; in tantra, it is believed that ejaculation depletes your energy. This belief has led to new practices that train the man and his muscles to recognize energy flows and release them without losing his own vitality.
The pubococcygeus muscle (PC muscle), also known as the “love muscle,” is located from your pubic bone to your tailbone. This amazing muscle can intensify your orgasms as well as stop ejaculation from occurring. To tone and strengthen this muscle — and ultimately, to increase your level of pleasure many times over — all you have to do is exercise it.
To locate it, urinate and try to stop the flow of urine. Now that you know what it feels like to contract this muscle, practice flexing it 20 to 25 times a day. Perform a couple of sets each day and increase repetitions when you’re able, but be careful not to overdo it. During sex, combine PC contractions with the breathing tips that I’ve listed below. Relax and enjoy.
Testes tug and penis tip squeeze
These techniques also sustain the tantric belief in delaying ejaculation. The aim is to retain your semen, energy and vitality by not spilling it all through sexual acts.
It’s believed that lovemaking will allow you to attain heightened states and gain an awareness of energy flows. Try these simple techniques to reach a higher state and energy level.
As you near orgasm, delay the overwhelming urge to ejaculate by pulling your testes down and away from your body; this is known as the testes tug. You can practice this technique by yourself to train your body to reach pleasure without ejaculation or you can have your girl do this for you.
Another way to sustain lovemaking is to perform the penis tip squeeze. Gently squeeze your penis just below the glans and you will prolong your sexual experience. Experiment and play with yourself or have her do it for you. Either way, you will learn how to gain more pleasure.
If it seems like this is all about you, that’s because it is. Though it may take longer for a woman, she can have multiple orgasms. You do not have that same ability… yet. With time and practice, you will gain the ability to achieve orgasm without ejaculation, but it does take patience to acquire this skill.
While you work on your multiple orgasms, try these tips to experience lasting lovemaking. If you’ve read or browsed the Kama Sutra, you’ve seen and possibly tried the multitude of possible positions. These varied positions come from the philosophical belief that a man’s health requires the reservation of his fluids and energy, and that by changing sexual positions, the flow of increasing sexual arousal is broken. The buildup then begins anew because the sensations and the rhythms have changed. You can experiment with new positions and find the ones you both enjoy as you give her a lengthy and passionate experience.
Tantra can take you to different levels of lovemaking. Used in nonsexual and sexual ways, breathing is an essential part of tantra. Learning how to breathe will enable you to extract energies from her and the world around you. It also allows energies to flow back and forth between the two of you. Tantra uses many breathing exercises and lingers over each, gradually building upon gained expertise before moving on to the next level. However, you don’t need to master them all to master yourself.
When men and women are excited, they often quicken their breathing or pant, which increases their arousal. And when they near climax, both tend to hold their breath. Thus, controlled breathing is an effective way to stave off your orgasm. Remember to be steady and relaxed, and to breathe deeply, slowly and rhythmically.
Tantra trains the mind as much as it does the body; it is about a feeling of wholeness. Tantric sex isn’t dualistic, and it does not want the separation of the mind and body. Rather, it seeks to join them in something greater and to make that union palpable and entirely enmeshed. It does not seek ejaculation, as sex isn’t about the orgasm or how long it takes. The techniques used in tantric sex are designed to enhance your relationship and bind you emotionally and spiritually. It is all about the intermingling and interplay of energies. Above all, she’ll love the techniques and appreciate the new, longer-lasting you.