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5 Common Dating Mistakes Men Make


Common dating mistakes men make

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There comes a time in nearly every man’s life when he realises that women are not going to be throwing themselves at him on a daily basis. For most of us, it’s a week after we start being interested in them in the first place. This means that anyone willing to go out with you should be treated as if they are the last woman on earth. Who knows, commit any of the following heinous dating crimes and, for you, she just might be!


No matter how broke you are, never try to split the bill on a first date. Though they may deny it, women have an inherent need to be looked after that goes all the way back to prehistoric times. Metaphorically, she’s looking for a strong hunter-gatherer to provide her with food and shelter. Asking to go halves is the equivalent of returning to the cave empty handed, and telling her to go and finish off a wounded Sabre-Tooth.


Everything in moderation.

A tenet to live your life by…if you want a boring life. However, when you’re meeting a girl for the first time, this is advice you might want to follow. Nothing beats a few drinks for bringing out the best of your repartee, but it’s a safe bet that you won’t be invited back if you start a fight with the waiter.


The majority of first dates end with a peck on the cheek and the promise of a second. If you go in thinking it’s a sure thing, more often than not you’ll be sleeping with disappointment. Having said that, on the off chance your date falls for all the bullshit, prior planning is essential. You might believe your pad is acceptable, but try to look at it through female eyes. Dirty clothes strewn everywhere will not go down well and, while your Blood Bath shower gel might be cool as fuck, chances are she’ll think you’re a serial killer and jump out of the bathroom window.


You’ve managed to get her back to your place, but things aren’t going entirely to plan. If it becomes obvious that the best you’re going to get is a kiss and a cuddle, then the only option available is to man up and accept it. There’s always next time. Never, ever, suggest sleeping together with the promise that “nothing will happen”. All women can spot this one coming from miles away. At best she’ll think you’re a liar; at worst, desperate.


For some reason, many men believe it is unacceptable to turn up to a first date packing protection. “If she sees condoms in my wallet,” the thinking goes, “she’ll assume I thought she was easy, and the only thing getting blown will be my chances.” As it happens, nothing could be further from the truth. Nowadays, an unwanted pregnancy is the best that could happen, and the sensible majority of women actually have more respect for a guy who acts responsibly. Not that you should turn up wearing a rubber, of course, but it can’t hurt to have a pack of 3 in your back pocket. Just in case!


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