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Build Trust By Revealing The Real You


Here is another article (by John Alexander) that I found quite insightful and helpful in developing a feeling of trust right off the bat. As I’m a big advocate of the “inner game” approach, make sure when building rapport (and trust) convey as much of your true personality as possible, this will mean she can start developing attraction for the real YOU and not some “pickup droid” that is reciting a few seduction routines.

What if she doesn’t like the real me? Well firstly, when it comes to self-perception do not only dwell on the areas that you think may not be attractive, this is destructive to your esteem, look at your strengths too and commend yourself on these. However, you do need to acknowledge where your shortcomings are make a concerted effort to develop and improve yourself in these areas. Secondly, start to model yourself into a man that is attractive to women. This is a man that is well rounded in all his exploits, by that I mean, have ambition to succeed at work or in business, take care of yourself and have pride in your appearance, constantly seek out to improve yourself, find a new hobby, learn a new language – or just about anything that will shape you into an intriguing, attractive and highly sought after individual.

Now here’s the trick: take baby steps to building a better you, for example, today make a list of all the things that you find interesting and you’d like to perhaps persue or investigate further – these could be anything really; cooking, blogging, kayaking, learning french, photography, salsa. Then, next week do a bit of research and find out all you can about the subject. Then, the week after that take the plunge and get involved and cracking. Start to do this on a monthly basis and you will soon find your days become filled with a range of interesting and fulfilling activities.

Right, on with the article:

I’m about to reveal a little-known secret of human persuasion that can induce the woman to feel complete trust for you, and have sex with you… even if it’s the very first date.

You see, for a woman to have sex with a guy, she must not only be attracted to him, but she must also trust him. Look at it like this:

1. Trust Without Attraction = “He’s a great friend and I love him to death!” (Translation: “We’ll NEVER have sex!”)

2. Attraction Without Trust = “I’m not a loose woman. He’ll have to wait before he gets any!”

However, if the woman has both attraction AND trust for the guy, she’ll be literally begging you to take her home with you that night.

Let’s take a typical scenario. Say it’s coming up on 11 PM, and you’ve been with a woman since 6 that afternoon. As long as you’ve had good rapport with her and you’ve kept pushing the interaction forward, you can assume she’s attracted to you.

And by the way, with a woman, you should always assume attraction until proven otherwise. Because the bottom line is that as long as you’ve got good body language, you’ve got a lot going on in your life, and you’re witty and interesting, she WILL be attracted to you.

Now you need to build trust. By the time you finish this article, you’ll know an easy, efficient way to do that.

And by the way, this is a one of the best-kept secrets of human persuasion. The most successful advertisers and salesmen to make billions use it, and now you’ll be able to use it with women.

Have you ever noticed how ads will sometimes mention minor defects in the products? A famous example of this was the wildly success Volkswagen Beetle ads from 30 years ago that had the huge headline: “Lemon.”

The point of the ad was that not all of their cars were perfect. VW took its quality inspections so seriously that it took note of even small weaknesses in the builds of its cars.

You see, if a person tells you something that’s against his self-interest, you tend to trust him more. We all do. It’s a fundamental trait of human psychology.

So when it comes to women, you should point out your minor flaws. Examples could be:
– “I have an ugly mole on my neck. Sometimes I feel self-conscious about it.”
– “I had to give a speech last week and felt so nervous!”
– “I don’t always floss my teeth even though I should.”

Even if they’re fake flaws, it doesn’t necessarily matter. By pointing them out, you create a perception of honesty within the woman.

Because she believes the minor imperfections about you, she’ll believe the MAJOR PERFECTIONS about you as well.

This means that, having both attraction for AND trust in you, later that night she could be breathlessly panting, “I’ve never done it with a guy this soon before!”


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Lover of gadgets, men's culture, cool stuff, Earl Grey tea and all things manly. An optimist in his prime. When he's not keeping the wheels turning at Mantality HQ you'll find him trawling the web, and visiting trade shows to find the newest and coolest gadgets. During his down time he's usually with his 2 dogs, on the golf course, cycling or basking in the literary company of Oscar Wilde, Bret Easton Ellis or Martin Amis whilst drinking espresso strong enough to strip paint.

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