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Flirting 101: What You Should Already Know


By XY Boon for

Showering a woman with a flirtatious gesture is one way you can show your interest in her. Innocent flirting can open up new possibilities; unfortunately, bad flirting does the converse. It will have the woman run the other way so fast before you can even finish your cheesy pick up line: “Was your father an alien, because there’s no one like you on Earth!”

There are a handful of men out there who are clueless when it comes to flirting. In this article, we highlight the faux pas most men make when picking up a woman.

Don’t Tell a Rehearsed Joke

We often hear that women dig men who have a sense of humor, and this explains why many men have immersed themselves into archives of jokes and monologues. What women are looking for is a man who is able to tickle her senses, not one with a superb memory. The funniest jokes are often spontaneous; when you reiterate a real-life parable during dinner or make a funny impression of someone you both know. There is no need to channel Chris Rock or other comedians just yet.

Look But Don’t Touch

Copping a feel will only earn you a sexual harassment lawsuit and a complimentary tight slap across the face. Most women do not appreciate physical contact with someone who is not a boyfriend or husband.

The trick here is not to get all touchy with the girl you’re flirting with. What you should do is keep a safe distance, albeit a very short one. Gently brush against her hand when taking a stroll in the park. When conversing with her, you should also lean in closely to her to show your interest. Stand behind her when she’s picking out a dress at the mall. She will be able to feel your presence, and it gives her a sense of security. Just make sure you are not about to sport an erection.

Don’t Play The Opposite

You may have heard this from your “dating guru” of a friend: Play coy and always give backhanded compliments; this way you have all the power. Take our advice: Do not heed your friend’s advice! A common misconception about flirting is that it needs to be subtle. Those who subscribe to this notion have flirting confused with “messing with her head”.

This isn’t a mind game. You want your girl to know you are flirting with her. Sending her mixed signals will only confuse her, and she may even think of you as a wuss for not daring to make the bold move. Of course, this doesn’t mean you ought to brazenly proclaim: “I will have you in bed in three hours.”

Play it up by dropping hints that you know she is into you (if you know this for a fact). Jokingly say “Hey, I’m a catch!” when she banters with you. You exude confidence when you praise yourself periodically. Confidence is a huge turn-on for the ladies.


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Lover of gadgets, men's culture, cool stuff, Earl Grey tea and all things manly. An optimist in his prime. When he's not keeping the wheels turning at Mantality HQ you'll find him trawling the web, and visiting trade shows to find the newest and coolest gadgets. During his down time he's usually with his 2 dogs, on the golf course, cycling or basking in the literary company of Oscar Wilde, Bret Easton Ellis or Martin Amis whilst drinking espresso strong enough to strip paint.

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